You did it!
You swore off dieting!
You tell yourself that doing extreme things to lose weight is behind you.
The NEW you is all about focusing on using activity to be strong and healthy rather than using exercise as a tool for fat loss.
The NEW you is about mindfully enjoying foods that help you feel your best and support your activity level.
But there’s still that pull…
You hear your co-workers talking about their newest diet and you catch yourself considering giving it a shot.
You quickly seek to re-affirm your commitment to your new path…
You channel your inner John Wick and proclaim that you don’t do that kind of stuff anymore…
But the nagging voice persists…the temptation for drastic measures…for another “quick fix”.
It totally makes sense that you would feel this inner conflict.
From so many dieting attempts, you now view dieting and weight loss as 2 sides of the same coin…
And now that you’ve sworn off dieting, you’re thinking that should mean that you’ve sworn off caring about losing weight.
But they’re not the same thing.
You’ve sworn off a particular method, but that doesn’t mean that you’ve made that same commitment to no longer caring about the outcome you wanted.
There’s still something that appeals to you about losing weight.
And that’s not necessarily a bad thing (assuming no body dysmorphia and you’re not pursuing dangerously low body weight).
Weight loss CAN provide significant benefits… and I’m not talking about conforming to societal expectations or anything like that.
Excessive body fat, especially the fat that sits around your organs, releases chemicals that can raise your disease risk, increase inflammation, promote fatigue, and more.
Practicing healthy eating habits and being active is ALWAYS worthwhile, regardless of what your current body shape or size may be, but some of your efforts can be undone by the shenanigans that these fat cells are up to.
The good news is that caring about weight loss doesn’t mean that you need to go down a dangerous rabbit hole of restriction or excessive exercise.
I’ll get to that in a minute.
Humor me for a second and picture a food that you LOVE but can’t cook at home…
Now let’s pretend that there is only ONE restaurant within driving distance for you that serves this food.
Every time you go to this restaurant, the employees are incredibly rude to you.
You’ve asked to talk to the owners, but they were even MORE rude to you.
You hate dealing with them, but they’re the only place you can get that meal.
Now…what happens if a new restaurant in town opens up?
The food is just as a good and they welcome you enthusiastically when you arrive.
How strong is the temptation going to be for you to return to that old restaurant and their rudeness?
Why suffer when you can get the thing you want elsewhere, right?
When you get your weight loss needs met in ways other than through restrictive dieting, you realize there’s no need to go back to them.
There’s nothing stressful or uncomfortable about your body burning through fat cells.
Rarely, will you even hear their cries for mercy.
The only thing required for weight loss is a calorie deficit…more calories going OUT than calories going in.
It doesn’t require feeling run down.
It doesn’t require pounding headaches and painful hunger.
It doesn’t require feeling deprived.
Your body just needs *enough* of a reason to burn some damn fat cells.
However, diets are appealing because they don’t require thought.
They’re emotionally and physically draining, but they’re intellectually quite easy.
You take a list of rules, you follow them, but inevitably you stop following them.
Are your goals important enough to you to put some thought into?
The alternative to dieting and a blanket list of rules is to practice making deliberate changes.
Identify a single area that would likely make a big difference for you in terms of calories going in vs calories going out.
Then, in a way that is realistic and enjoyable for you, work on creating skills and habits related to that area.
Then do it again.
Keep repeating this process until you meet your goals.
And then, keep practicing the skills and habits that will keep you there.
It doesn’t require misery or starvation.
It requires thought and focus.
Are you up for the challenge?
If you want some support and guidance on taking the next steps for achieving weight loss without restrictive dieting, check out The Habit Project™.